Myths and Realities about Muslim Women
Often Muslim women are portrayed as passive, voiceless and submissive victims however, history has shown that Muslim Women have not just sat at home and cooked dinner but have successfully run nations and companies. For example; Khadijah (Radi Allahu Anhu) and Aisha (Radi Allahu Anhu) the wives of our beloved prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) were very talented tradeswomen and Muslim scholar respectively. While women in varied cultures had to earn equality, Muslim women were given these rights from the beginning without any struggle. However, the Muslim women are often pitied and women practicing their religion are considered “Oppressed and non Liberated”.
This info will dispel common myths about Muslim women that skew the general public perceptions.
Myth: Hijab is a form of women’s subjugation
Hijab is mandatory for all believers be it men or women Allah says in the Quran:
“Say to the believing men that: they should cast their glances and guard their private parts (by being chaste). This is better for them.”
“Say to the believing women that: they should cast down their glances and guard their private parts (by being chaste)…” Surah An Nur
It is more of an willful/intentional Choice to please Allah than an act of subjugation
Myth: Education is forbidden for women
The first word revealed in “‘I’Q’R’A translated as “‘R’E’A’D”.
To gain knowledge is an obligation for every Muslim man and woman, so that they can fulfill their religious and social responsibilities.
“Seeking knowledge is compulsory for each and every Muslim (i.e, both male and female),” Surah Al-Baqara
One of the great example to contemplate is ‘Aisha (Radi Allahu Anhu), mother of the faithful, was a hadith-narrator, scholar, intellectual and jurist of great standing. She is believed to have reported 2,210 Hadiths.
Myth: Women Hold lower status in Islam
Islam holds women in highest regard in every phase of her life:
“When she is a daughter, she opens a door of Jannah (Heaven) for her father. When she is a wife, she completes half of the Deen (Religion) of her husband. When she is a mother, Jannah (heaven) lies under her feet.” Surah An Nisa
“O mankind! Reverence your Guardian-Lord, who created you from a single person, created, of like nature, his mate, and from this pair scattered (like seeds) countless men and women. Reverence Allah, through whom you demand your mutual (rights), and reverence the wombs (that bore you); for Allah ever watches over you,” Surah An Nisa
A woman is obligated to have a guardian (husband or male relative), he is by no means her owner.
When everyone are free to practice their belief and call it liberation. Why is it that a Muslim women following her religion is called oppression?
Myth: women is not an equal partner in marriage
The prophet of Islam (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “women are the twin halves of men.” The Quran emphasis the essential unity of men and women in a most beautiful simple:
“They (your wives) are your garment and you are a garment for them”. Surah Al-Baqara
Quran states that both men and women are equally responsible for the welfare of the family. Tolerance and kindness towards each other is responsible to create a prosperous life and help build a strong family
“And women have rights similar to those of men over them in kindness.” Surah Al-Baqara
She wasn’t created from his head to top him nor from his feet to be steeped upon, she was made from his side to be close to him, From beneath his arm to be protected by him, Near his heart to be loved by him.
15 Of The Worst Mistakes Women Make
15 Of the worst mistakes women make while trying to improve their attractiveness
- The Trout Pout
Every man loves woman with a juicy, plumb kisser. They should be thinking Scarlet Johansson or Angelina Jolie, not Meg Ryan or Lara Flynn Boyle. There is nothing attractive about him opening his eyes from a kiss and realizing he just played tonsil hockey with plankton from Sponge-Bob Square-pants. After he realizes this, there will be absolutely no love for your Bikini bottom.
- Little Baby Voice
Ok! Whoa! Stop there girl! Who told you that putting on a phony baby voice was sexy? Paris Hilton? Not only is it irritating, but it also sends subliminal messages to the male psyche saying ” i’m not your papaaaa!” and “i am not like Roman Polanski.”
- Hair Extensions
Picture the scene. You, him, cuddling under a blanket watching a movie he runs his fingers through your hair. Sounds romantic right? It was until his fingers got caught on your track and when he pulled away he thought he was turning into teen Wolf. If he doesn’t turn away immediately, you can bet he won’t be coming close to your artificial rats nest away time soon .
- Spray Tans
What’s orange, sticky and smells funny? Nope it’s not a rotten tangerine. Tans are sexy that’s for sure, just not when they come from a can. No guy wants to date an Oompa Loompa, that’s the opposite of hot! These tans have a very distinct odor as well . smells like soy sauce. Not only do you look like leftover General Tso’s. You kinda smell like it too.
- Chronic Dieting
Contrary to popular belief, men do not want emaciated, 14 year old Estonian super models. Sorry Vogue! Men prefer healthy and curvy bodies. is there any man enraptured with passion over Rachel Zoe? Not really. Well maybe one and probably has a fetish for overcooked beef jerky. Skinny and shriveled up is not sexy.
- Acting Dumb
There is nothing more daunting than trying to get through a date with a vapid bubble head. There is very limited conversation (“Um, how many calories is in lettuce and water?” ” I didn’t know our president was black! Bill Clinton is black?!” It is so quiet he can actually hear her brain working overtime to muster up a simple answer. Representing yourself like you are part of the MK Ultra sex kitten government experiment won’t get you anywhere . Men are better mankind as we know it to perish.
- Chicken Cutlets
False advertisement is a crime ladies! It is never in good form (pun intended) to mislead a guy, Be proud of your boobies no matter what size. Imagine the embarrassment of getting felt up only to have the guy scream out in panic “I think i have found a tumor” while holding your floppy, life-less insert in hand. Then having to explain to him what it really is.
- The Booty Pop
Big bottoms are all rage lately. Booties like peaches, that if bitten into would be full of surgery nectar. Enter The Booty Pop, the infomercial panty that gives lazy ladies a little extra jiggle. Once the booty really pops, your man will be left with a pancake and no peach. You will be left with a deficit of 19.95 plus shipping and handling. Sir Mix A Lot would not be happy, girlfriend.
- Showing All The Goods
A glimpse of toned calf in stilettos, or an eye full of tanned shoulder blades in a camisole defines sexiness and lets the mind wander. Getting a close up the scars from your boob job in a halter is trashy and leaves little to the imagination. A man doesn’t want to be asked “How much for Blondie?” by potential Johns when out and about with his lady. Classy always wins out over trashy, always.
- Tramp Stamps
A tramp stamp is an open invitation to the bimbo brigade. Chances are the tattoo has no significance or history other than to commemorate the 15 shots of soCo you had just taken, You see a butterfly or Chinese letters and all he sees is “Proud graduate of the Pam Anderson day school for the impossibly trashy and outdated.”
- Sharpie Brows
Eyebrows are very important feature on a woman’s face. They are one of the first features noticed. Over-plucking and drawing them on harshly is never a good idea. Two strong and dark brows will make your man think you joined a street gang. He will be anticipating the day you pull a razor blade from under your tongue and cut him up, ese! leave this look to Vice City avatars.
- Goopy Gloss
While you may rush to the nearest store to pick up the newest pink lip gloss to entice your man, he is thinking “Oh no!’ you may think your lips look luscious, but when he kisses you, his lips feel like a mouse caught in a glue trap. There is nothing like the thought of dead mice to get a guy going. This will only work if his name is Ben and his bff is a rat.
- Press On Nails
Press on nails should be renamed press on fails. They look extremely fake and tacky. This is not the main issue though. Popping off all the time is. When you only have three nails on your hand, you run the risk of looking like Amy Wine-House, completely cracked and unaware of hygiene. Imagine baking a sweet pie for your man and when he digs in, a ruby red fake nail remains in his mouth or even worse his throat. Mmmm delicious!
- Mascara Overload
Pointy, twisted, clumpy, flaky. The antithesis of attractive. Just like the lashes that accompany those words. Looking like two tarantulas made a home on your way eyelids is creepy. Let’s hope the guy you are fixing to score isn’t an arachnophobe. Tammy faye was the only one allowed to pull this look off and trust me, she did it with a lot of help and love from God.
- Dark Lids And Red Lips
The whole objective of makeup is to enhance the beauty you already have, not to alter it completely and wind up looking like a demented Kabuki doll. Dark lids and red lips should never be pared together. It makes you know of a single man who would date maleficent, but quite a few who would die to sleep with the beauty.